Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Be Intentional About Saying Yes and Saying No

Remember my recent post here where I shared that:

Much of the time when we say “no”, we are actually providing space to say “yes” to something else. Yet, when we say “yes”, we are really saying “no” to other things. And it ended with the question: What areas are you feeling need a “no” provide room for something better?

Today I stumbled across this post over at Chatting at the Sky. The post is titled How Saying Yes (and No) Shape a Life Story. I love the part of her post where she tells of this man realizing he wanted his life to tell a better story. Is your life telling the story you want it to tell?

And I was reminded of this post that I wrote last year. I am reposting it below because it really is one of my favorite posts and this is where my heart is right now: deciding what to say yes to and what to say no to...deciding what areas of my life need some restructuring...deciding what story I want my life to tell and figuring out how to get to that ending. Here is one of my favorite posts from last year:

This season I am being intentional about saying no. Oh, it is so hard. We as woman were made to be nurturers, helpers. . we were made highly relational. . .it's in our makeup to connect with others. It makes us feel appreciated, valued when we are invited to a party or asked to participate on a committee or throw the preschool class Christmas celebration. Yet when we say yes to one thing, we are taking away from another. And this season, I am saying no so that I do not miss out on times like this:
Sidenote: I am usually in this pile up too. . this is what we call the Soutter sandwich. . Rob and I are the bread, Anna is the turkey, David is the ham, Brooke is the cheese, J-boy is the pickle. And out of the blue, one of us yells Soutter sandwich and we all pile up on Mom and Dad's bed, the couch, the floor. . .oh I hope my kids do not ever outgrow this version of the "group hug"And I am saying no to many a party invitation so I can spend a day in my kitchen with my family making chocolate peppermint bark and peanut butter balls. With nothing else to do that day. . so that I am not constantly looking at the clock making sure we clean up in time, get in the shower in time, get us all in the car in time, so that we arrive on time. That watching of the clock so takes away from enjoying the activity at present. . so I like a whole day of not going anywhere.

And I am not filling up every weekend night between now and New Year's so I can make graham cracker gingerbread houses with my kids and then read them this story about a house in heaven that is even cooler than the ones we build with lots of candy and frosting.

And I am saying no so I can make lightbulb earrings and lightbulb chocolate lollipops with my kids and tell them about The Light of Christmas.

And I am saying no so. . oh there are many others that I will share in future posts. But if you are feeling a little reluctant to say no. . or perhaps you are just so in the habit of saying yes to every holiday invite, perhaps make a list of your priorities this season. And then before you say yes. . evaluate whether the activity lines up with the priorities. That's being intentional.

And I encourage you when you get a few moments to read the 2 posts I mention above: My post titled Packing {Life} into Your Life and Emily's post at Chatting at the Sky titled How Saying Yes (and No) Shape a Life Story. Click here to be taken to Emily's post.

The name of my blog is The Intentional Home. Every so often, I post a tip, something that I deliberately, intentionally do around the home to make it run more efficiently or something I deliberately do to teach my kids a point, or something I deliberately do to communicate to my husband and kids that I love them , or something I do to help me grow personally. . .something I am deliberate at making happen in our household.

I offer these not as "shoulds" or "musts" or "the only ways". I offer them to you as something to ponder, something to get you brainstorming, something to encourage you on your own journey in running the intentional home.

For more "be intentional about this" posts, click here.


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