Here are 5 benefits of training our kids to do chores. These are the benefits we need to keep in mind when the kids whine, complain, do the chore wrong, and make more work for us.
1. Chores build character. Chores build work ethic, perseverance, self-discipline, responsibility, gratefulness, and whatever the opposite of laziness is.Sounds like the making of a good husband to me. Chores build muscles too. . .not as attractive as perseverance and responsibility and a grateful heart, but muscles are attractive too :) And of course, chores build these character traits in our girls as well.
|Chores also build leadership. We often have our older kids teach our younger kids a new chore. Not only are our older kids teaching a new skill to the younger ones, but they are role modeling a good work ethic and a good attitude.|
3. Chores train for the future. Chores teach life skills. Chores teach our kids to work hard so that they will not find it a struggle to do so the rest of their life. Chores ensure that our kids will know as adults how to take care of their own homes. Our kids will leave for college or their own place knowing what routines it takes to run a home, knowing how to cook, knowing how to do laundry, etc.
4. Chores train our kids to take initiative. Routine chores help build independence and help teach kids to take initiative independently. This is why after our kids finish a chore and we inspect, we often say, "Now look around and see if there is anything else that needs to be done. Is there anything else you could do to bless the family?" After doing this over and over, we have found that our kids now on their own take initiative to wipe up the mud that they see on the floor (yes, even if they did not track it in) instead of just stepping over it.
5. Chores teach kids to see outside themselves and to think of others. We have taught our kids that after the last chore is checked off their list, they are to come to us and ask, "What can I do for you Mom/Dad? or "Is there anything else I can do to help?" We require this because Rob and I want to instill a servant's heart in our kids and a heart that thinks of others. And Rob and I believe the way to train a young (under 10) child's heart is to transform their behavior. So we require the behavior of asking what else can be done after all chores are finished.
Let me explain:
For children, their behavior or actions proceed their beliefs. For adults, it is the opposite: our beliefs proceed our actions. I believe stealing is wrong, therefore I don't take the sweater from the store, I pay for it (with a coupon of course!). I believe thanking people is right and I am sincerely appreciative of the gift and the person who gave it to me, therefore I write thank you notes.
For kids this is reversed. They will believe being thankful is right and hopefully cultivate a genuine thankfulness once they have learned to thank people and this becomes a habit. Or in the case of #5: My kids will believe that thinking of others is right and cultivate a genuine servant's heart once they have learned to ask others what can be done to help and this becomes a habit.
|When I get my computer fixed, I will have new pictures for my blog posts. Oh I am having to exhibit lots of patience with this computer problem.|
We have already seen the fruit of this in our older children, not only in our home but outside the home as well. When we went snowboarding, all 3 of my older kids (and my Daniel because he saw it role modeled by the older kids) stopped "tearing up the mountain" so that they could help someone who had fallen or help someone pick up their skis or poles.
|J, our 5 year old who is going to grow up to be a hardworking man who joyfully serves others|